maygra: (annoyed fangirl)
maygra ([personal profile] maygra) wrote2009-01-22 04:11 pm

Wow. Did I pick the wrong day to check in on fandom.

You know, every time I come back here and think that maybe, maybe I'm ready to come back into the fannish fold, something happens to make me think twice.

If you have access, you can read back a post or ten and find out how I feel about the outing of Fen to the rest of the world, their families, whoever-the-fuck-ever, without their explicit permission. If you are lazy, let me sum up:

It sucks. It's the worst kind penny-ante, petty, self-serving, pitiful behavior I can think of. There's no excuse for it, no justification of it, and no forgiveness for it.

And you know what else it does? it makes the person who pulled such twat-brained move fair game and a tasty target for those of us who either don't care if we're outed as porn-loving, incest-writing fen, or who it will not impact if we are. It gives us license, as few things do, to treat you badly when we find you, to make your life hell, to mock and malign you, and post and repost your badly thought out attempts at some kind of personal justice or vicious lolz, and warn everyone near and far about what a wasted piece of pixel-dust you are.

And then we get to sit back and watch you squirm and whine and complain about how fandom is so mean to you, and watch you try to lie your way out of the quagmire you've driven yourself into as you work your way deeper in with your pathetic struggles.

I don't care why. I don't care if your target made you feel bad, if you didn't like her hair, her friends, her politics, or you were just having a bad day. It's gonna surface -- your name, your journal, your website, your email. At some point either the authorities will trace your IP, Facebook will roll-over and show its belly, or you will brag quietly to a friend and they'll let something slip and we'll know who you are. And you know how I know that will happen?

Because you were stupid enough to do something that has actual criminal implications by involving a minor in your idiotic vendetta or joke or whatever.

Nobody is that stupid just once.

Best run, little fangirl. Best run now.

ETA: Not trimming my flist. If you are on my flist...oh, please, please stay while I catalogue IP addresses and then get notified every-time you post or if you try to get off my flist. Please don't leave my flist just yet, because that would be too, too, easy.

But feel free to post anonymously...just this once, I insist. Please let me invoke my state's internet harassment and stalker law.

[identity profile] kadymae.livejournal.com 2009-01-22 09:41 pm (UTC)(link)
I don't even know who this is, or what it is about, but Maygra, I love you.

Yes. This. Exactly.
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[identity profile] tsuki-no-bara.livejournal.com 2009-01-22 09:43 pm (UTC)(link)
yes. that. hopefully it won't take them too long to be revealed.

[identity profile] affectingly.livejournal.com 2009-01-22 09:47 pm (UTC)(link)
And you know what else it does? it makes the person who pulled such twat-brained move fair game and a tasty target for those of us who either don't care if we're outed as porn-loving, incest-writing fen, or who it will not impact if we are. It gives us license, as few things do, to treat you badly when we find you, to make your life hell, to mock and malign you, and post and repost your badly thought out attempts at some kind of personnel justice or vicious lolz, and warn everyone near and far about what piece of wasted-pixel dust you are.


EXACTLY. Because though I don't know exactly what I'm going to do when I found out who did this, I know I'm not going to hold back because they can throw whatever they want at me... It's not going to trip me up one little bit. I'll keep coming.

Thanks. ♥

[identity profile] adonnchaid.livejournal.com 2009-01-22 09:58 pm (UTC)(link)
Fortunately, I have no idea where this happened this time, but you are so totally right about this. Looks like someone forgot "as ye sew, so shall ye reap"

I'm sorry it was a bad day to check in on fandom and I offer big {{{hugs}}} to help make it better.

[identity profile] geminigrl11.livejournal.com 2009-01-22 10:00 pm (UTC)(link)
SO not the welcome back I would have wanted for you. And I was just thinking this morning how long it's been since I've seen you and how I hoped you'd come around...now, I'm contemplating getting the heck out and staying there. :(:(

[identity profile] slb44.livejournal.com 2009-01-22 10:15 pm (UTC)(link)
Not the what I would have wished for your return dear, but, nice to see you're still in fighting form. *g*

(The fact that I don't have a clue what we're talking about doesn't change that).

[identity profile] technosage.livejournal.com 2009-01-22 10:22 pm (UTC)(link)
I get the feeling I really don't want to know, but I'm damned glad to see you. <3

[identity profile] meri-oddities.livejournal.com 2009-01-22 10:24 pm (UTC)(link)
I'm sorry you returned to this problem. I don't even know the context. Still it's good to see you back. And as someone who would really rather not be outed, thanks.

[identity profile] bonibaru.livejournal.com 2009-01-22 10:33 pm (UTC)(link)
Oh dear. I don't know what I missed but I know I don't want to be that person on the receiving end of the collective years of wisdom and savvy turned against them!

[identity profile] leela-cat.livejournal.com 2009-01-22 10:40 pm (UTC)(link)
Don't know who did what to whom, and I probably don't want to know. But I'm damn glad to see you back here. *twirls Maygra*

[identity profile] singletailwhip.livejournal.com 2009-01-22 10:42 pm (UTC)(link)
:::head/desk::: The most frustrating part is that things like this send wonderful writers out the door - and we get LESS STORIES! So, as this affects ME (because, after all, it's all about me :-) I'll make the offer - if said dickwad is in Northern California, do let me know. *I* don't at all mind being outted (my friends, family and co-workers already know I'm kinky, what could they do?) I'll be happy to show up on their doorstep and have a little come to jesus chat....

[identity profile] azewewish.livejournal.com 2009-01-22 10:50 pm (UTC)(link)
Everything you just said. If this person is in SoCal, man, everyone in my family & my friends aleady know all about my pervy/wrong writing habits (hell, my mom gives me ideas from time to time), so yeah, I'll volunteer to put the fear of fandom into them. Because this sort of vileness is NEVER on.

[identity profile] contrariwise.livejournal.com 2009-01-22 10:50 pm (UTC)(link)
Wait, whut?

[identity profile] ginmar.livejournal.com 2009-01-22 10:52 pm (UTC)(link)
So did you get hate mail and threats at your house address, too? The only consolation is that people who pull that shit are so pathetic they won't even sign their names. Dude, how weak.

It's not fun going through it at all. I hope the fucker shows up and you catch him. I'm really sorry you have to deal with this shit.

[identity profile] maygra.livejournal.com 2009-01-23 12:03 am (UTC)(link)
Not this time -- this one's not about me, someone else got to be the target. I've been threatened with it before though. And I know you've been here more than once. I sincerely despise people who think they are justified in this kind of behavior.

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[identity profile] exsequar.livejournal.com 2009-01-22 10:54 pm (UTC)(link)
*hides under the bed from the wrath of the mighty Maygra*

*pokes head out* Hi you!
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[identity profile] ratherbe4gotten.livejournal.com 2009-01-22 11:21 pm (UTC)(link)
*head desk* this would be why I'm happy I only float on the happy, fluffy edges of fandom.

*clings* don't stay gone, fandoms not all bad... honest?
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[identity profile] slavelabour.livejournal.com 2009-01-22 11:31 pm (UTC)(link)
Can I just offer to handle this individual if they're in the state of Texas. ANYWHERE in the state of Texas. Because I don't lock anything down, ever. I'm not askeered, I'm not ashamed, and I'm sure as hell not happy. I'm sorry you came back to this, Maygra, but I'm glad to see you're still ready and willing to show up for the important stuff. {hugs}

[identity profile] tingler.livejournal.com 2009-01-22 11:45 pm (UTC)(link)
Dude! You're a little bit scary when you're pissed! (Okay, I take that back. You're a little bit scary when you're *not* pissed. You are a lot scary when you are pissed.)(But then, that's one of the many reasons I love you!)

[identity profile] kassrachel.livejournal.com 2009-01-22 11:48 pm (UTC)(link)
Um... I think I missed something significant. ::sigh::

Well, anyway. It's nice to see your voice around these parts, even if it's for crappy reasons.
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[personal profile] minim_calibre 2009-01-23 12:06 am (UTC)(link)
And just when I thought humanity had reached a low for the week, WHAT????

Fucking fuckers. The fuck?

Thou shall not out, fuckers. Rule number one.

[identity profile] pizzapixie.livejournal.com 2009-01-23 12:21 am (UTC)(link)
Oh wow. I'm not sure what the Hell is going on, but that's okay - I rarely do. However, if you need me to kick ass in Indiana just let me know. I would say it's great to hear from you (It is!) I just wish the subject matter was more hopeful than hopeless.

[identity profile] partaymon5.livejournal.com 2009-01-23 12:23 am (UTC)(link)
Oh man, not again! When will these idiots ever learn? No,I take that back, they won't. Maygra, wonderful to hear from you again... sad it had to be for something like this.

[identity profile] bethbethbeth.livejournal.com 2009-01-23 12:30 am (UTC)(link)
I just got home from work and have been reading my f'list backwards so yeah, I've heard the story a few times, and...man, it's not that I hate people. People, I love. It's just that some people really need to be locked away for the sake of the rest of humanity.

[identity profile] riverbella.livejournal.com 2009-01-23 12:43 am (UTC)(link)
Yes. Hurts people and hurts fandom. This is so not on. Why is it some people seem to get stuck in the 7th grade and just never move on? I don't know the details, but this kind of behavior sucks so hard. There is a one-way ticket to the special hell reserved for this fucker--I hope you, or the victim, or both of you, get to punch it!

[identity profile] alethialia.livejournal.com 2009-01-23 12:49 am (UTC)(link)
No idea what happened beyond what you've said here (which proves to me what a fringe-dwelling SPN fan I am...which makes me oddly happy), but a big ITA to everything you just said. Fans dicking over other fans in rl because of shit from fandom makes me fucking insane.

::pets you::

[identity profile] destina.livejournal.com 2009-01-23 01:16 am (UTC)(link)
*hugs you a lot*

Oh, fandom.

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